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- Reasons Someone Might Not Want to Grow Up
- What to Do When You Don't Want to Grow Up
- When to Be Concerned
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If you've ever thought to yourself, "I don't want to grow up," then you're not alone. Let's face it: being an adult can feel like a bit of a disappointment compared to what we pictured the future would be like when we were kids. The burden of adult responsibilities and the restrictions imposed by our realities can make being a grown-up downright unappealing compared to the freedom we imagined we'd have.
Back when we had bedtimes, couldn't choose our clothes, and had our meals decided for us by our parents or caregivers, many of us thought that one day, when we were grown up, everything would be better. We imagined a world where we could eat whatever we wanted, stay up all night playing video games, and watch endless television.
What we didn't picture was getting tired in the middle of the afternoon, being bogged down with responsibilities, and having to eat our veggies to keep our bodies healthy. In addition to these daily inconveniences, it doesn't help that reaching many of the milestones of adulthood is more challenging than ever before. For example, buying a house is much more difficult today than it was for previous generations—especially without help from parents.
At a Glance
If you think growing up sounds like a lousy thing to do, you're far from alone. However, just because many people feel this way doesn't mean it's conducive to a good or functional life. Ahead, we'll examine why a person might feel like they don't want to grow up, then look at some solutions to make being a mature adult a little bit easier.
A Lack of Good Adult Role Models
Not having solid role models can negatively affect adolescent behavior. By the same token, having good role models can have a positive impact on youth behavior. If you don't have the opportunity to witness how wonderful life as an adult can be, and you see only negative examples of adulthood, it's understandable that you don't feel great about the idea of growing up. And while you might not have realized when you were young that you didn't have solid role models, it still may have affected your view of adulthood in important ways.
Adulting Isn't Always Fun
Even if you have a career you love and are passionate about, work can be challenging—and sometimes it just doesn't feel fun. It can also not feel fun to have to schedule your own appointments, to go to the dentist, to work through therapy, or to be a parent yourself and have to take care of others. The fact that being a grown-up isn't always the great time we all hoped it would be can make a person feel like they just don't want any part in it. This may seem a little silly to those adults who are very responsible and love it, but it's a valid feeling. We're programmed to seek new experiences, which in turn makes us happier as people—and being an adult, performing the same duties day in and day out can feel pretty repetitive and mundane.
Being Alone Is Scary
As a child, you're rarely by yourself. Parents or caregivers are who you start and end your day in the company of, and in between that you spend your time in school, which is full of peers and teachers. As an adult, though, you may find yourself completely solitary, especially if you live alone and don't have a social job that involves working much with other people. Being alone can feel scary, and it can make a person want to revert to younger days, when they were around friends more. It can also be much more challenging to make friends as an adult, or to find other people who also take part in hobbies you enjoy.
Keep Healthy Elements of Youthfulness
There's no rule book that says you have to give up everything about being young. In fact, members of Gen X, who are in their 40s and 50s now, are notorious for not dressing like adults. Many have tattoos, or colored hair, as well. You can absolutely continue expressing yourself in the manner that feels best to you, even if you're an adult. Adulthood is about your actions more than it's about your appearance. So, if your hesitancy of growing up is centered around you not being able to express yourself, you should be aware that as an adult, you get to dictate that yourself—and you can be as youthful as you want to be, while still being responsible and mature.
Focus On the Joyful Parts Of Adulthood
Sure, there are certainly difficult parts of growing up, but there are some pretty amazing ones, too. Getting to stay up late talking with a friend, spontaneously going out for ice cream, or taking yourself out to see live music are just a few examples of things adults can do on their own that kids cannot. By focusing on the positive parts of adulthood rather than just the negative ones, you can reframe your attitude. And once you do, growing up might not seem all that bad after all! Attitudes are known for shaping behavior, which means that by choosing to enjoy the happy parts of adulthood, you can bring yourself to take part in even more of them.
Discover the Beauty of Personal Growth
It may feel safe to be a child, but there is so much to be said for how proud you can feel when you experience self-growth. The quest to be a better person is an unending one, and it can bring you joy. It can also be incredibly rewarding, because by growing as a person yourself, you can also improve the lives of others. You can choose to grow in ways that directly affect other people, such as choosing to embark on an anti-racism journey. Or you can begin a gratitude practice, keeping tabs about what in your life you're grateful for. If you aren't sure where to start, you can look at self-help books to decide what path feels right for you.
Sometimes, the desire to not grow up can also be a sign of a more serious problem. If these feelings are accompanied by other symptoms, for example, it might be a sign of a mental health problem such as depression or anxiety. Signs to look for include:
•Losing interest in things that used to bring you joy
•Not having the energy or motivation to do anything
•Withdrawing from friends and family
•Excess fatigue, changes in appetite, and changes in sleep
•Avoiding people, places, or situations due to feelings of anxiety or fear
If you are struggling to deal with the expectations and responsibilities of adulthood, there are things you can do to get help. Talking to a mental health professional is a great place to start.
A therapist can work with you to develop coping skills to help you manage the things you find the most stressful about being a grown-up. Instead of avoiding these tasks, you'll be able to tackle them effectively without feeling overly stressed.
Examples of healthy coping strategies that can help you deal with the challenges of being an adult include:
•Leaning on your social support system
•Practicing mindfulness meditation
•Getting regular exercise
Growing up can be incredibly daunting. Know that you aren't alone in having difficulties on this topic, and that there are many different avenues you can take to get yourself on the path of becoming a happy adult.
Doing things that help you feel young, focusing on the joyful aspects of adulthood, and staying on a path of self-discovery can help make being a grown-up more joyful. If you're still struggling, talk to a mental health professional about things you can do to manage the stresses of adult life.
Healthy Coping Skills for Uncomfortable Emotions
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1.Joint Center for Housing Studies of Harvard University. How many young homebuyers get support from their parents and how much of a difference does it make?.
Jul 28, 2015 · Do you get confused between “grow” and “grow up” in English? Today we’ll show you how to know the difference and use each term correctly. We’ll also throw in some bonus English phrasal verbs with “grow” to help you sound more natural when you speak English with natives!
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