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Oct 30, 2019 · The same is true of childhood sexual abuse or adult assault: You were an innocent victim of a terrible crime. It was not your fault. In part 4 of this series we will focus on who...
Jan 18, 2019 · Victim abusers usually portray themselves as innocent, hurt, blameless wounded souls, caught up innocently in the poor behavior of another person (usually a previous partner) or circumstance.
- They turn things around: Abusers are good at turning things around or making things fit the way they want things to be or appear to others. Abusers can be very sneaky, subliminal, and vicious.
- They oust you when you oust them: The moment you decide that the abuser is not a positive force in your life, they can turn on you. Why should they continue to be nice to you if you are “calling them out” or pinpointing who the real problem is.
- They play “mind games:” Mind-games are some of the most evil things a person can use against you. Why? Because playing mind-games includes some degree of psychological and emotional control.
- They suffocate you with lies: As stated above, the abuser will often deny they are abusive because for the most part, the abuser cannot own up to his or her behavior nor can they acknowledge who they really are.
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- Myth #1: You Are Not A Victim! Get Out of A Victim Mindset.
- Myth #2: You Must Forgive An Abuser in Order to Heal. Don’T Be Bitter Or angry.
- Myth # 3: Abusers Just Need Love, Understanding and More Hugs.
Perhaps one of the most frustrating victim-shaming platitudes is the idea that we are not victims – encouraged by both misguided coaches and invalidating family members alike. While it’s helpful to evaluate our agency to change our lives and make positive changes, nothing could be more inaccurate than the statement, “You are not a victim. Get out o...
Forgiveness is a personal journey and skilled trauma therapists understand that forcing premature forgiveness, especially before traumas are processed, can actually hinder the healing journey. As trauma therapist Anastasia Pollock writes regarding her experiences with clients, “I work with people who have experienced horrific traumas at the hands o...
This victim-shaming myth of holding hands with our abusers and singing kumbaya simply does not cut it when we are dealing with highly manipulative individuals. While we’d all love to live in a world where everyone is capable of change so long as we give them a chance, this belief completely dismisses the reality of predators who never change their ...
Feb 5, 2024 · Blaming the Victim: The Psychology of Innocence and Guilt. Why are the innocent sometimes blamed for crimes against themselves? Posted February 5, 2024 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader. Key...
May 8, 2023 · This article explores the different types of mental abuse, signs that someone is being abused, the impact of mental abuse, and some coping strategies that may be helpful for people who have been abused.
Jun 6, 2017 · Here are some facts you should know: Usually, abuse takes place behind closed doors. Abusers deny their actions. Abusers blame the victim. Violence is preceded by verbal abuse.
