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Feb 14, 2023 · We spoke to 12 men about life after divorce. They touched upon painful feelings, paranoia, debt, and loss of friends. But also: stronger relationships with their kids, finding peace, and settling into a new sense of normal that feels, well, okay. Some changed for the better, some are still works in progress.
- Don’t Go It Alone. “Do not attempt to manage a divorce without professional legal help,” insists Roy Smith, not his real name, a divorced father of two from Pennsylvania.
- Avoid Dishing Dirt. It’s crucial for both parties to either not discuss their ex or only mention them to the kids in a positive light, suggests Mediator Dori sSwirtz of DivorceHarmony.
- Consider Mediation. “Mediation is a crucial piece of the puzzle for the majority of divorcing couples,” insists Shwirtz. Mediation empowers both parties to make the decisions for themselves.
- Please Don’t Use Your Kids As Pawns. Children can easily become weapons in a battle between parents, witnessing raw emotions, and often being manipulated by one or both parents if things turn toxic.
- Wayne Parker
- Help Your Kids Cope. Divorce can be difficult for a child. All at once, their family life gets turned upside down. You may not initially see the impact of a painful divorce on the kids, so keep in mind that your kids may be hurting even if they aren't showing it.
- Try to Stay Close By. When your kids no longer live with you full time, maintaining a relationship with them takes a little more effort. Staying in close proximity to the custodial parent's home can make spending time with your kids more convenient.
- Stay Connected From a Distance. Sometimes a military deployment or a job keeps you from living near your child’s other parent. When you live far away from your kids, relationships can be strained.
- Be Prepared for Child Support. If you are the non-custodial parent after a divorce, you will likely be ordered to pay child support. Child support is financial support—most often paid by the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent—for the purpose of financially supporting the children.
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Nov 28, 2022 · Learn how to cope with divorce, prioritize self-care, and create new family traditions with your children. Find tips on discipline, quality time, and keeping it civil with your ex-spouse.
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- You divorced your ex, not your kids. While some divorced dads disconnect from their kids when they separate from their ex-wives, the divorce can actually be an opportunity to re-connect with your children.
- The only parenting expectations worth a damn are your own. Divorce frees you from not only your ex-wife’s expectations, but those of your parents, her parents, Dr. Phil, and all those dads you see talking joyously about fatherhood on Jay Leno.
- There’s no such thing as a part-time dad. You’re either a dad or you’re not. Many divorced dads spend more time with their kids than fathers in intact families—think of dads in the military, or dads who work 12-hour days.
- You are not a babysitter. Don’t like ads? Become a supporter and enjoy The Good Men Project ad free. There’s no need to constantly take your children on expensive adventures, shower them with gifts, or keep them perpetually entertained, as if filling a perceived hole in their happiness.
May 14, 2024 · Learn how to maintain a strong connection with your children after divorce, despite the challenges and expectations. Find out how to be a father, not a babysitter, and how to trust your instincts as a parent.
May 6, 2024 · As a divorced dad, navigating the aftermath of a failed marriage can feel like traversing uncharted waters. Yet, amidst the challenges and heartaches lies an invaluable opportunity for growth and self-reflection.
