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- Are You United Spiritually? Check for an Equally Yoked Relationship. God isn’t a matchmaker. He doesn’t oversee the e-Heavenly dating service. There is no such thing as a soul mate or “The One” — the ideal person God picked just for you.
- Are You Ready to Make a Lifelong Commitment? Again, God isn’t a matchmaker, and you should emphasize that to your daughter’s potential fiance. He is freely choosing your daughter, and because it’s his decision, your prospective son-in-law needs to be prepared to do whatever it takes to make it work.
- What Do You See in My Daughter that Makes You Want to Marry Her? You want to know that he is drawn to your daughter’s inner character traits (such as integrity, generosity, kindness, loyalty and spirituality) over shallow or superficial things like her looks, her taste in fashion or a shared love of a particular sports team.
- Do You Agree on Core Values and Big Dreams? What are the man’s most important values? Does he value honesty? Commitment? Generosity? Sacrifice? Personal growth?
It is important to recognize the signs of controlling behavior and take action to protect yourself and your family. Remember, you have the right to set boundaries and enforce them. If you suspect that your son-in-law may be abusive, it is important to seek help from a professional.
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How do you compliment your son-in-law?
- "Is She Treating You right?"
- "Wow- This Is Amazing!"
- "Don't Give up."
- " _ (Insert Your Daughter's Name) Never Seemed happier."
- "Can You Help Me Out with ...?"
- "What Are Your Plans?"
- "Dinner's on us."
- "Can I Watch The Kids For Date Night?"
- "Can We Skype Or FaceTime?"
- "Thank You For Being Such A Great Father to My grandchildren."
This shows your son-in-law that you knowhe is a good match for your daughter. And that you have faith in him. Not long after my youngest daughter married, I asked my son-in-law this question. The answer was "Yes!" as I had expected. My daughter cracked up because when his mother called, she asked her a similar question: Is he treating you right?
Acknowledge the good things he has done such as improvements around the house, fixing the car or teaching the kids a new skill. Always be on the lookout for things your son-in-law has done. Make sure to show your approval. Everyone enjoys recognition when they've done something well. (Be sincere because hollow praise is just that- hollow.)
Support your son-in-law as he strives to improve. Don't focus on what he hasn't done yet. Rather, offer words of encouragement and know in time he'll achieve his goals. You'll be glad you were not a stumbling block to his progress. Instead you will share his joy knowing that you stood behind him.
Give credit where credit is due. Noticing the positive influence your son-in-law has on your daughter will encourage that positive influence to continue. This will lead to a healthier relationship that fosters your daughter's successful marriage.
Seeking advice is one of the best compliments you can pay. Ask your son-in-law for help or advice in areas where he excels. Make sure that you don't become a burden by over doing it. His wife and kids may take all the extra time he has. However, an occasional request shows you recognize his strengths and sends a positive message.
The holidays should never be a time of dread because of YOU. Before making holiday plans, ask what your adult children have in mind. Consider that your son-in-law will want to spend time with his parents and catch up with his siblings and their families. Try celebrating before or after the special day. The main thing is communication and a willingn...
Young families don't always have dining out in the budget. Providing a gift card to his favorite restaurant is a real treat. Beware! You don't want to send the message, "I know you can't provide, so I will." As a birthday or anniversary gift, your kindness will be appreciated.
Offer to watch the kids to give your son-in-law one on one time with his wife. This is a win-win situation. You get to spend special time with your grandkids and you're doing a favor for the parents. Couples need regular time alone together, especially as their family grows. Show that you are supportive of the marriage relationship. Make sure to pl...
If your son-in-law lives in another city or state, offer to Skype or FaceTime with the kids. This, again, is a win-win situation. You'll spend time getting to know grandchildren better. Mom and dad have some regular free time even while living far away from family.
Never forget that your grandchildren are the wonderful people they are, in part, because of your son-in-law. Letting him know that you sincerely appreciate him will boost his esteem as a father and may encourage him to want to do even better. In the words of H. Jackson Brown, Jr., "Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and inte...
By Philip Galanes. Aug. 2, 2018. Our son-in-law treats my husband and me dismissively. He’s always checking messages on his phone when we’re around. He makes lots of money, so he thinks he...
- Welcome your son-in-law with open arms. That sounds obvious, but many parents resist a wholehearted embrace. If you accept that he's the man your daughter has chosen, and respect that, you should be able to reach out and treat him as a valued addition to the family.
- Respect your daughter's boundaries. Often, a mother-in-law has her own blueprint for what her daughter's life should be like when she marries, says Elizabeth Berger, author of Raising Kids with Character.
- Leave your daughter in charge of trying to change him. Keep whatever differences you may have with her husband in perspective. Don't overlook his good qualities while getting hung up on one flaw, such as a tendency to be late, or his gaining a few pounds.
- Don't compete for your daughter's attention. Such a rivalry can be painful for the person you both love. Instead, realize that you and your son-in-law have separate relationships with your daughter that are distinct and need not threaten each other.
Mar 1, 2010 · Mar 1, 2010. | By Dr. Cathleen McGreal. I Can’t Stand My Son-in-law. Three Tips to Make It Work. Q: My husband and I really dislike our new son-in-law. I want to maintain a relationship with our daughter, but it’s hard to overlook the way we feel about her husband. What can we do?
Oct 26, 2018 · Monster in Law/New Line Cinema. Tension is common in in-law relationships. Keeping the peace is important though. Make sure you keep up good communication. Even if you think you have a good ...
