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- Choose your battles. It’s easy for parents to get burned out by conflict or the battle of wills in a household with a strong-willed child. But you don’t have to engage in every battle.
- Have clear expectations. Children thrive with boundaries, structure, and routine, says Amodio. They might complain about these things, but deep down, it's what keeps them feeling safe and supported.
- Find ways to give your child some autonomy. For strong-willed children, it’s critical they feel like they have a voice and get to make some decisions for themselves, says Alana Carvalho, LMHC, and author of Raising Empowered Children.
- Explain your reasoning. Strong-willed children often need to understand the why behind requests, decisions, or boundaries that parents establish. Taking the time to explain your reasoning can head off what might otherwise be a battle.
Feb 13, 2024 · Positive Traits of Strong-Willed Children. Recap: How to Deal with a Strong-Willed Child. 7 Ways to Deal with a Strong-Willed Child. What should you do when daily life is one constant battle after another with your child? Reward good behavior? Impose negative consequences? Set firm limits? Lean into natural consequences?
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Strong-willed children crave respect for their perceived right to self-determination. In His infinite wisdom, God gave each of us free will, but the strong-willed child seems to cherish that gift far more intensely than others do. All strong-willed children desperately crave personal autonomy.
Mar 31, 2024 · Characteristics Of a Strong-Willed Child. 1. Independent Thinkers. 2. Fiercely Determined. 3. Strong-Willed Spirit. 4. Passionate Advocates. 5. Highly Expressive. 6. Creative Thinkers. 7. Natural Leaders. 8. Highly Observant. 9. Strong Sense of Justice. 10. Tireless Energy. 11. Fiercely Loyal. 12. Resilient in the Face of Failure.
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Scientists propose that when children’s behavior is unreasonable, it is because their reasoning skills are being temporarily impaired due to emotional overload. Dr. Dan Siegel, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine calls this flipping the lid. Often adults judge the behavior as deliberate, or even personal. Yet, more oft...
But strong-willed children, like all children, are not an homogeneous category. Each one is a special individual with a unique body and mind, operating within a specific environment. They may all appear to stubbornly resist coercion and display challenging behaviors at times, but they don't all respond in the same way, to the same degree, for the s...
Many children will tolerate most discipline approaches, even ineffective or damaging ones, out of a spontaneous desire to cooperate, or out of fear. Strong-willed children, though, resist approaches that they find invasive or disrespectful, and their behavior significantly deteriorates if approached in unsuitable ways. The fact is that most traditi...
After centuries of speculation about moral depravity, demons and curses, it is only relatively recently that resistance has been reframed as a positive creative function. Psychoanalyst Otto Rank, who called it counterwill, was the first to define this trait as beneficial: the developmental forerunner of a healthy sense of integrity, autonomy, and c...
The complexity of human beings and human relationships doesn’t allow an easy one-size-fits-all answer for the strong willed child. To find a tailored answer for our specific child and situation, we need to start asking the right questions. A good first question is: “How do we win our children’s trust in us and persuade them to depend upon us?” Any ...
Becoming that unafraid and confident adult, if you are not one already, can be a real challenge. Helping children learn emotional regulation and cooperation requires us to be fluent in these skills. And sadly, many of us are not. This is not our fault. We simply were not taught them. They were not demonstrated to us. With practice however, they can...
Our children need to see in us the same flexibility, patience and willingness to cooperate that we desire from them. They may push us to question, probe and resist: our neuroses, our cultural conditioning and our social conformity. They may ask us to apply critical inquiry, to learn how to emancipate ourselves from what we “know,” and learn how to ...
Strong-willed children would much rather fit in than be singled out. It is not out of joy that they behave in ways that make others upset or seem disrespectful. It is distress. Usually coupled with a lack of skills. While they are feeling awful, they often get stared at with disapproval, laughed at, addressed with harsh remarks, or shouted at, even...
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” — Jiddu Krishnamurti Because distressed behaviour is still largely treated as something to be sanctioned rather than understood, parents need to learn to advocate for their children. We still have far to go to end fear-based discipline, in school and elsewhere. But we, a...
Strong willed children urge us to keep our minds open and our hearts soft. They are not the problem. Adults are not the problem either, but we are a big part of the solution. We can reject approaches that justify intentionally hurting or shaming children. We can find ways to honour and support the most vulnerable among us. We can start building a s...
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Parenting the Strong-Willed Child offers an approach to parenting that is based soundly on behavioral principles and provides guidance for shaping positive child behaviors and parent–child interactions and for modifying negative behaviors and parent–child interactions.
Sep 7, 2021 · Raising a strong-willed son or daughter is not easy. Sometimes, getting him or her to comply with your requests can feel like trying to tame a wild beast. John and Danny provide a dose of hope to parents who feel overwhelmed by their strong-willed child. Featuring Cynthia Tobias. Original Air Date: September 7, 2021. Get our Mobile App.
