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- Christine Louise Hohlbaum
- Get attention. We have seen it (and most likely done it) on platforms such as social media. We want people to pay attention to us. It’s that simple. Solution: Pivot the conversation.
- Remove responsibility. When a work colleague, for instance, is unwilling to complete a task, notice how the person will start to complain about it. It is a delay tactic that weakens the person’s position without him or her even realizing it.
- Inspire envy. In other words, bragging. We have learned in our culture not to show off, but if we complain, say, about our 10,000 square foot home and how hard it is to keep clean, our true intention is to display material abundance to make others jealous.
- Power, or what Bowen calls “enrage and engage.” We build alliances with those in our midst while gossiping about those who are not. Solution: If you are being sucked into a power dynamic, you can shut it down by acknowledging it is not your issue.
May 11, 2018 · Paying attention to our feelings is necessary, but complaining is not. Complaining does, however, point to a source of distress. If you suspect you are a constant complainer, look for the trouble underneath. Find the courage and support to deal directly with the issue, and focus on what needs to be different.
Dec 3, 2023 · Complaining is a form of problem-solving under stress. Venting can feel good in the moment, but it may be better to seek a concrete benefit or just send a signal. To complain effectively, emotion...
Jun 13, 2017 · There is a growing body of research addressing complaining: what it is and when and why it happens. To begin with, complaining is simply expressing dissatisfaction. This usually happens...
Jan 10, 2020 · According to the New York Times, there’s a right and wrong way to complain, and done right, it can actually be good for you. As Robin Kowalski, a professor of psychology at Clemson University, put it, “Yes, it’s good to complain, yes, it’s bad to complain, and yes, there’s a right way to do it.”
- Kayla Kibbe
Aug 30, 2018 · Americans complain at an alarming rate. Here are seven things to try when you catch yourself ranting about something or someone.
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Dec 10, 2023 · Too much complaining can worsen your mood, make you feel helpless, and lead to a negative outlook on life. If you want to know how to stop complaining, consider: Practicing gratitude. Writing down your thoughts in a journal. Reaching out to supportive loved ones.
