Jacqueline Mazarella
The Oversharer
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May 20, 2021 · Why people overshare, according to science. You know how it goes: you meet a stranger at a party, and 10 seconds after the conversation starts, she's deep into a very personal and very detailed...
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Sometimes people share too much in an effort to cultivate a certain image. They will get way too personal, way too fast, sharing private details of their unusual preferences, their sex life, or other topics usually reserved for intimate relationships. The provocateur shares for the sake of sharing – they want their ‘dirt’ out in the open. They want...
This person wants to know just for knowing’s sake. They ask a million questions, coupled with a million follow-ups, and they hang on every potentially-juicy tidbit you give them. Fight the pressure to overshare by giving bland answers (a version of the grey-rock technique), or by asking questions in return. If they deflect and bring the conversatio...
This person overshares as a means of locking in a relationship. By getting very personal, very fast, they attempt to reverse-engineer friendship. They tell you too much about their past and their struggles (such as their entire childhood story, or all their emotional issues), which increases the chance you will want to be there for them. You might ...
This person has to know how they stack up against those around them. What better way to do so, than to draw everyone’s dirt out into the open? By eliciting personal details and private stories from you, they attempt to build a quantifiable picture of who you are, usually with the goal of negatively comparing you to themselves. This accounting behav...
In the end, all these strategies come back to one thing: setting and maintainingfirm boundaries based on what you’re comfortable with. Setting boundaries works a lot better than ignoring the person, being mean, or tolerating uncomfortable oversharing until you hit your breaking point. If your boundaries continue to be violated, thenyou have a right...
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Oct 30, 2023 · Understanding why one overshares can improve mental health and help mitigate its impact on listeners, protecting valued relationships. Here are three reasons why some people chronically...
Jan 16, 2023 · In fact, research has shown that the older we get, the more we overshare. But discovering how to read the room and identifying the triggers that lead you to too many details will help curb this behavior. Read on to learn how to stop oversharing and making those around you feel uncomfortable.
Feb 27, 2019 · Here's how to do it. Oversharing burdens colleagues with information they do not want. To defeat an oversharer at work, you need to know and assert your boundaries. To build collegial relationships with co-workers, you need to share who you are beyond the transactional talk of deadlines and deliverables.
Nov 24, 2021 · According to Morin in Psychology Today, there are five main reasons behind oversharing: 1. A false sense of intimacy. 2. Solace in a stranger. 3. A misguided attempt to fast-track the...
